
This is a memoir about a man and his parts.
The vigilant one who never clocked out. The boy who made himself small when the room got loud. The adapter who could read any room and disappear into it. The one who pushed through. The one who hid. And the Self underneath all of it that was never lost, only clouded.
It starts in government housing on a street called Clay Circle in the South Carolina foothills. It moves through twenty years of cross-cultural work in San Francisco. Into marriage. Into fatherhood. Into the slow cracking open that led me to Internal Family Systems, and the even slower work of letting my parts rest.
This is not a therapy book. It's a story. My story. Written from inside it.
From Clay Circle to Mount Horeb. From vigilance to gentleness. From a boy scanning every room to a man learning he was beloved before he was useful.
17 chapters. Childhood. Leaving home. Afghan refugees in the Bay Area. Meeting my wife at 16th and Mission BART. Building a life. The cracks. IFS. And what came after.

Chapter 1 is already out. It's called "The Living Room." You can hear it on the IFS Meditations and Insights podcast below.
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